It would be an interesting task to count all the attempts to manipulate an average person on an average day.
- A very nice guy asks for help with his spilled coffee and then starts asking innocent questions very empathically
- Your boss wants you to take yet another responsibiltiy because "you are the one they trust".
- The beggar asks you for money, otherwise he will startve to death.
- Your kid begs for more money because she will surely get ostracised by all the rich kids if she doesn't join them at an expensive place.
- The telemarketer calls you during Sunday lunch and gives you an unrefuseable offer to go to a free medical check or a prodct demo and for safety reasons asks for your credit card number.
- The politician unveils through the media that he is the only one that represents democracy and affluence, while all the others are villains.
Can you resist?
It takes serious effort to be able to keep resisting for a long time. Even if you do, you may be flooded by the constatnt waves of guilt and the sense of "missed opprtunities". Every time you refuse a request or an offer you may feel uneasy because wanting to help is deeply rooted in your mind. Saying no is way more taxing psychologically than saying yes. Our rightful interests and our good will constatnty battle in our souls. So much so that the first one sometimes seems evil and selfish. Especially when skilled social engineers make us believe.
Manipulation attempts can be very dangerous to your personal life and also to your company. Either you or anyone in your firm may be approached by a nice and sympathetic person. By the time they realize, they may be coxed into something that later turns out to be a disastrous information leak. All this is based on subtle techniques, practice and profound knowledge of influencing people.
Techniques to influence
Many people try to manipulate all of us. Some of them rely on instinctive feelings, others on subtle tactics and techniques. It is hard to tell what is a desparate call for help and what is a sophisticated attempt to lure you into something shady. The first step in successfully and effectively handling manipulation attempts is recognizing them. The second is civilised refusal. The third is praparation and making precautions. My training helps you in this: how to recognize manipulation and how to say no.
What I offer
The best way to do it is practising: situational games, roleplay, video camera use and analysing the recordings we have just made. All this is aided by psychology: it is very useful to know what scams are based on in your mind.